The long road: couples who have history need support
You and your partner have been together for a while. You’ve made it through some life transitions, some struggles, joys, and celebrations. You know each other well. You make a great team and yet you miss the days when your relationship was new and exciting. Maybe you have kids or you’re about to. Maybe you’ve decided not to become parents. Wherever your marriage or your partnership has been, it now feels a little lonely, a little stale. You want the deep intimacy again. Couples therapy is for you. Here, at Spilove, we know how to help you and your partner to reconnect and breathe life into your marriage or relationship.
Contact us here to schedule a free consultation for couples counseling in Bryn Mawr, Philadelphia, and online across Pennsylvania and New Jersey.
2. The New Relationship: for couples who are just starting to find their flow
You found a great match! It’s fun and exciting. You’ve gotten to know each other for a while and your heart is in this one. There’s so much about this relationship that works for you and you’re excited to see it unfold. Unfortunately, you’re noticing that you and your partner are getting triggered quite often. Feelings get hurt. There’s some blame and insecurities arising. You know you care deeply for this person, but you’re starting to feel tangled in some baggage that may not belong to this particular relationship, and yet it is impacting you both. If things continue, you worry the relationship won’t make it. You want this to work and yet, you seem to keep getting stuck in each other’s wounds.
Our couples’ counselors specialize in working with attachment wounds. We are trained and skilled in helping couples unpack the nuances that trigger trauma wounds and impact relationships. Together, we will help you and your partner to create safety in your relationship and build trust in yourselves and in one another.
Contact us here to schedule an initial consultation in Bryn Mawr, Philadelphia, and online through Pennsylvania and New Jersey
3. Couples going through life changes and premarital counseling
You have a solid relationship with your partner, but now things are different. Maybe you just had a baby, just got married, just moved in together, started a new job, or had a loss. Life is not the same as it was before and you want your relationship to be the solid foundation for you both as you navigate this new phase of life. Here at Spilove, we can help you process the new role you’re in and how you’d like your life to look in this new chapter.
4. Now we’re lopsided and we want to stay on the same page: when one member of a partnership is doing their own growth - how to stay together
You’ve known your trauma has impacted your partnership. Perhaps you came together through a trauma bond. You were in it together and faced the world together through the lens of difficulty. But you’ve grown now. You have a different perspective and you’ve done your healing work. The work seems to have put a wedge between you and your partner and you don’t want to leave them behind. You worry if you don’t get support for your relationship, you might not stay together. You’d like your partner to do their own work and to be able to be on the same page. Couples counseling can help your relationship to expand so that it can hold the new version of yourself now that you’ve healed some of your wounds. Couples can be helpful for your partner to support you and for you to be able to bring support to your partner. Together, we can work so that the “we” can best support the individual “I” of the relationship and so that the “I” can support the “we”.
To learn more and book your free initial consultation in Bryn Mawr, Philadelphia, and online throughout Pennsylvania and New Jersey, click the button below to book your intro call.
5. Boundaries! Our relationship needs support around boundaries
You were raised with enmeshment, not much individuation between you and others. And you realize that you’ve built this relationship based on enmeshment. It worked for a while, but you realize how important it is to individuate. You need some breathing room in the relationship and also with your family and in-laws. You want some space, but you want to maintain your relationship. It’s been difficult to change the original way you entered in. If you don’t get support, you worry that you’ll continue to argue with your partner. You would like some assistance with boundaries for the health of all of your relationships and you’d like to start with your most central connection - to your partner.
As couples therapists, we know how to help.
6. When your relationship is in trouble: stone walling and the other horsemen of the apocalypse
It’s been rough! You don’t even know if you like your partner anymore. You feel resentment, animosity, and sometimes hatred. You remember a time when you had deep affection, but at this point, you can’t access compassion. Your home has become a silent battleground that explodes from time to time. You’re tired of the tension, but neither of you can put down the fight. If you don’t get support, you will continue in the land of silent scorn and you may need to start the divorce process. No one should have to live like this. Contact us here to get a free initial consultation for couples counseling.
7. Are we poly? Is opening our relationship right for us?
You’ve been talking to your partner about practicing Ethical Non Monogamy (ENM). You are interested and excited but want to make sure you’re considering the implications. You’ve read some books, watched some of your friends open their relationships and you’d like to have a safe space to sort out the boundaries, the emotions and ensure the connection between your primary partner(s). Relational therapy is a great place to create safety, open communication and sort through the many considerations for changing the monogamous relationship dynamic.
Contact us here for more information about reduced-rate couples counseling with our Jefferson University Interns. We have offices in Bryn Mawr, Center City, Philadelphia on Rittenhouse Square and we offer online telehealth therapy virtually throughout Pennsylvania and New Jersey. Click the button below to book your free initial intake call.
Reignite Connection, Build Trust, and Grow Together with Couples Counseling
No matter where your relationship stands—whether you're navigating life transitions, rekindling intimacy, setting healthy boundaries, or exploring new dynamics—our skilled couples therapists at Spilove are here to support you. Together, we’ll help you and your partner create safety, rebuild trust, and strengthen your connection.
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Other Therapy Services We Offer in Pennsylvania
In addition to our focus on couples therapy, our skilled therapists offer a variety of other mental health services. These include Ketamine-assisted Psychotherapy, LGBTQIA+ therapy, and treatment for eating disorders. We also provide specialized play therapy for children.
Our qualified therapists conduct DBT skills groups as well.
If life coaching is more suited to your needs than traditional therapy, we provide in-person life coaching in Pennsylvania and online services across the US.